In Conservative and Orthodox Communities it would be frowned upon if you didn't convert before marriage. So this is what I've been putting Adam through. But see, I have issues with going through the motions of converting when I actually do not believe in any of it. If you are Chinese-American you have your own history and background that is at least as rich. The duty towards God includes (but is not limited to) praying five times a day every day and on time, fasting during the month of Ramadan, and professing the declaration of faith that "There is no god but Allah and Muhammad is His Messenger." Getty Lee is the Bassist/Vocalist for the band Rush. This being said-I am Jewish. Tell him that you are willing to allow the children to be raised with jewish cultural values but you aren't going to convert. Day by day I hated not being able to learn about Islam at home. Get your conversion on girl. I always thought that Jewishness is passed along from the mother's line, so if you are someone's mother and not jewish, your child is not jewish.Why not keep you promise ring, take the Jewish classes with an open heart and mind, go through the motions sincerely, and maybe you will find it compelling...if you do, then that is a good thing, and if you don't, you will be much better informed as to why you choose to accept an engagement or not. As Muslims we are advised to recite this book daily. Tsada K. says:Personally, I think that it is hypocritical, not so much of the person converting, but of the family who asks that person to do so in the form of an ultimatum. It's not about you and him, but the environment in which you will seek to maintain your relationship. Islam, has always been the only acceptable religionin the sight of God. Facebook. Here's the bottom line. Who is Getty Lee? There is no compulsion in Islam. A lot of religions seem to parallel each other. I can tell you from personal (biased) experience that it is the only religion I could consider participating in actively. Every Muslim has their duty towards God and their duty towards humanity. Second, we are the world's single largest Muslim community united under one Imam, His Holiness the Khalifa of Islam Mirza Masroor Ahmad. If you're part of a reform synagogue, mom doesn't have to be jewish for the kids to be. I guess in this sort of case (kids) its that you agree to raise them following certain traditions. I would recommend an interfaith ceremony with a Ethical Culture leader for you and a Rabbi for him, or since you are asian maybe you'd prefer a Buddhist monk from a branch of Buddhism that is agnostic?Good Luck! This is something only you can gauge. There are definitely rabbis that will marry both of you even if you don't convert. There are fewer and fewer people in the world who are 100% Jewish. My boyfriend is Christian and 100% sure he does not want to convert. Something about Jewish boys in their yamakas is kind of exciting I think. And in fact, Judaism has been changing in the past hundred years. That way you can teach your kids that there are several ways to live, not just one faked way. I also make the traditional food sometimes likes latkes, sufganiyot, and challah for shabbat. ?roomie:  *mouth agape*                 *blinks* me:  *double stranded helices dance in head*           *considers discussing statistical model for heritability*         *remembers illogical nature of religion in general and keeps mouth shut*to this day, i have yet to hear an answer...and i'm pretty sure mendel was turning over in his grave when that conversation took placeif someone knows, please tell me....after 15 years, and many jewish friends later,  no one seems to know...roomie eventually became conservative orthodox in an attempt to compensate for her very faulty great, great, great grandmother's ova~then i knew a shiksa who converted, too...her story is a sad one, though.am i the only person who sees irony that some in the jewish faith are proponents of essentially what hitler touted???? Are you aware of the role of a Muslim wife? It might have been easier if I had, but it worked out well. Reform Judaism makes it ok to have inter-faith marriages, but that doesn't change the tradition of Jewish law, which says it's all down to the mother. And there are rabbis that will do interfaith weddings.In the meantime, is this a deal-breaker for your boyfriend? Reform Judaism is not the same as traditional Judaism, and if you're talking Hebrew school and getting your kids into the fantastic Jewish programs available in this city, you, the mother, has to be Jewish. Before embracing Islam, be sure to spend time studying the faith, reading books, and learning from other Muslims. Why can't you just raise your kids Jewish anyway? Yes, Islam is about the Unity of God and the unity of humanity. My cousin (Jewish) married a woman who's Chinese American, and she didn't convert either...but now, five years later, she's taking classes at the synagogue and is really interested in possibly converting. Known as "the walking Qur'an," read his life to truly understand what Islam is and is not. Not so sad because your boyfriend won't accepto Islam. He shouldn't expect her to convert just *for him*. To Henry S.:Did you make it clear to your fiance? And there is no requirement for you to share with him that you don't believe any of it. Islam places great emphasis placed on attaining good character, good manners and of maintaining good relations with people. Anywhoo...here is my 2 cents. Still, I don't see why you have to "convert" to a religion and pretend to believe stuff you find implausible if it's the cultural aspect that is important to both you and your husband-to-be. What does that mean? Today is National Voter Registration Day! If you don't believe, you're not being honest. My view is that if you love this man and religion is not an important part (or any part) of your life, what is the harm in becoming jewish if it is important to him? why is it that shikzah's love the jewboys and jewish girls could give a rats ass about jewboys? Thats the best advice I can give. If you're a woman -- find out if the mosque you're interested in even has a place for women to pray (some unfortunately don't). Maintain both and your journey as a Muslim will take you far. Personally, there are many aspects of Judaism and the culture which are attractive (and others not so much). No point crying for what we're losing - we are in a new era. However, to marry I'm assuming it's a different story. The best 'weapon' to combat ignorance and intolerance of Islam is education -- so educate yourself as much as possible by studying the Qur'an, hadith, and classical Islamic scholars. To my surprise, I soon saw I would never have to present him anything. God's Word and God's Works should not ever conflict. I definitely envisioned having a Jewish wife, and thought that I wanted my wife to convert, but when it came down to actual marriage time, I kind of realized it wasn't that big of a deal given my lack of religious fervor. I'm in a serious relationship with a jew-ish guy. She had no religion and no real ties to any holidays. To Jennifer:Actually, the family stuff on MY side gets smoothed out. I would advice you not to wait long on your conversion because only Allah knows when he will take our souls, becoming a muslim is very simple it's literally saying a sentence with truth in your heart. Is he asking (meaning you can say no and life goes on and you get married) or expecting you to do it? Prayer is the most powerful weapon a Muslim has, so pray fervently however you please. That is definitely something I will look into because I have been under the impression that it is a must for the children to really be considered Jewish. It's your life and your decision.If he knew he'd want Jewish babies so bad to please his parents then he should've dated Jewish girls only. My advice to you is that if you are open to it, learn a little more about Judaism and see if its something that you can live with. whoops, that should have said "ordaining gay Jews as rabbis are just a few of the changes that have occurred in Judaism in the last hundred years."i'm. She is Jewish because I am Jewish. kathryn, you can have him girl!all men are idiots anyway. No incongruity canst thou see in the creation of the Gracious God. Remember, it really comes down to how comfortable you are with it.-----The Dude: Man, you're f*ing Polish Catholic...Walter Sobchak: What the f* are you talking about? You should embrace Islam together with your boyfriend. ; ). Islam is the future. Is that a law or something? “Islam for Dummies” was open on his screen. My own grandfather spent 15 years studying before committing himself to Islam. But my advise to you is do some research. Picture them as two wheels on a cart. For this reason, Islam is the … Your Muslim boyfriend shouldn't force you into converting. We got married because we were so much in love and couldn't imagine life without the other. Tap here to turn on desktop notifications to get the news sent straight to you. Note that it's a lot harder to be "passable" when hiding your lady bits. It's really not a big deal. If by some chance my boyfriend decided he fell in love with Islam and truly wanted to convert, I would welcome him in and be there every step of the way… but I would do the same if he decided he wanted to become Buddhist, Christian, or a member of the Church of the Flying Spaghetti Monster. This almost seems like a no-brainer but is so crucial that it cannot be emphasized enough. The only man I would convert for is Bill Maher.Wait...what? Nearly one-in-seven converts to Islam (15 percent) had no religion before their conversion.". Even if you associate with Jews, and come to share their quirks, mannerisms, habits, food preferences, sense of justice, and all that, you have taken a different path to get there so it is not really Jewish. If you wish to convert at a Masjid then my advice would be contact the Masjid. 2x.We are all from the same tribe (actually, there were originally 12, now its all the same. Traditionally speaking in Judaism conversions are actually discouraged. I do not have a religion. God hears prayer and admonishes us to pray to Him for guidance. That is a good thing as Islam seeks educated, thoughtful, and contemplative decision-making. Do you have to convert to get married? One even divorced her husband because she became very observant and he was not. My wife is Catholic and I didn't switch. For example, my bestfriend is with a Catholic who wants to raise his kids Catholic, but she is an atheist. But it's great because she speaks highly of his and he respects hers, and they find a way to meet somewhere in the middle. Do you really care? I don't go to services and I only do Shabbat here and there. Decide how you feel about that and go from there. Yes, a tree decked  out in blue, white & silver. One day, as he joined my school friends during a “study party” while he was visiting me at school, I looked over at his iPad to see what he was doing in order to keep himself occupied. 1 0. I have a 12 year old daughter. maybe i'm oversimplifying a complex matter i don't yet fully understand... yeh it's a farce. Sara F. says:why is it that shikzah's love the jewboys and jewish girls could give a rats ass about jewboys?----------------------I have this theory, in my case at least, that it's Darwinism at its best (to prevent inbreeding). I plan to read some literature and figure it out. Twitter. And if u are, don't convert because u have to. I find it all to be very enjoyable and in line with me. But, act and keep an open mind. I think a part of it is also because his parents are much more conservative and do have the faith and he would like to have a traditional Jewish wedding for them where the non-Jewish wife goes through the conversation process. He wants me to convert in to Islam. I smiled. I respectfully sit there and listen and sit and stand when everyone else does. Hey, I'm Chinese (mom) and Jewish (dad). I might have turned into a deliquent if they had left me there. Make sure it is the right decision for you first as you are making a promise the relationship apparently needs to work out. He used to be Catholic, but isn't into it or any organized religion for that matter.
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